"Where do I go to meet girls?" is the most common question that I get. It seems that even though there are close to 30 million single and eligible women in the United States alone, men still struggle to score a date with just one of them.

The biggest problem is that men simply do not know where to start. They are clueless about where to go to meet women.

Yes, of course there are many of you out there saying, "That's easy, just head out to the bar!" - That response is way too simplistic, and ridiculously wrong on so many levels.

First of all, in your quest to meet women you always want to be sure that you are presenting the best that you (as an individual) have to offer. This does not happen at the bar. Getting wasted off your ass, high fiving your friends every time a good looking girl walks by, and then slobbering all over her as you try to get a snog on the dance floor is a recipe for disaster. Even if you are able to control yourself and she does go home with you that night, to what avail? She has proven that she is easy, and you have proven that you are a player (or visa versa).

The men and women that frequent the bar are generally high maintenance, ego-riders. They will forever be more interested in themselves than they will ever be in you. It simply isn’t worth the effort. Believe me, I was there, I did that, I invented the T-shirt.

The reality is, the bar is the absolute worst place to meet quality women.

So where do you go next?

The pub? Noooo.... what did I just say about alcohol and being at your best!? The strippers? You can try, but ... really?

So where then?

The answer is simple. Go where the other guys don’t. Where is that you say? Virtually everywhere! All you have to do is find something that you enjoy doing (other than drinking) and do it. Believe me, if you enjoy doing it, there are women who enjoy it as well.

If you like to draw, then take an art class. If you like to dance, then take a group Salsa lesson. If you like to ski, then join a ski and snowboard club. Find things that make you happy, find activities that you will pursue into the foreseeable future, and it is there that you will meet the kind of woman you have been dreaming of.

For example, if your passion is art and you decide to take an art class, you will be surrounded by women who share a similar passion. In this situation, it will be ridiculously easy to strike up conversation. "Hey, that is great work, can I see some of your other paintings?" Simple, straight forward, and to the point. She will love it, and you wont have to sweat bullets or pound shots just to muster the courage to talk to her.

In a group dance class it is even easier because the coaches do all the work for you. They usually get everyone together in a circle and have you switch partners ever song or so. It's like speed dating without the pressure. Plus you get to try out your dance moves without looking like an idiot - after all, everyone in the class is a beginner!

Joining simple social activities, without the added pressure of going to a bar or a pub, is the best way to meet women. It makes things casual, social, and entertaining, which is the key to successfully meeting a quality girl.

At the end of the day, you have a choice to make. Are you looking for an awesome girl to be with, or just “some” girl for the moment. It most cases it is the former rather than the latter that attracts men, so get out there and try something new, you will be amazed at the quality and breadth of women that exist outside of the bar.

My advice is simple: get out of the house, abandon the club, and follow your passions to a much more fulfilling dating experience. The girls are out there, you just need to take the next step and make yourself visible to them.

-Safe dating my friends!