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The Top 10 worst things you can do on a first date.

10. Talk about how much your date reminds you of your ex.
9.  Stop halfway through the date and call home to ask your parents if you can stay out past your bedtime.
8.  Ask your date if they think 5 kids is too many, or if 4 would be enough to keep you both happy.
7.  Fart moments before you get in the car (believe me, it does not air out properly before you get in!).
6.  Flirt with the waitsatff in hopes that you will appear more desirable.
5.  Eat spicy food (refer to #7).
4.  Ask if your hands look fat in this outfit.
3.  Admit that you are a bit of a puker when you drink, and then proceed to get totally wasted.
2.  Lick the other person's ear when they are not looking (don't ask, all I can tell you is that this doesn't end well).
1.  End the date by asking for their best friend's phone number.

Try a few if you don't believe me, and let me know how it goes :)

- Happy dating everbody!

You wouldn’t think that this is rocket science, but if there is anything that Blind Date, or a recent episode of The Millionaire Matchmaker has taught me, is that most guys, and even some girls just don’t get it. Never fear, Date Me Dammit! To the rescue with some proper dating and relationship advice.

If you are on a first or second date, and things seem to be going well, you will likely ask yourself, “When is a good time to lean in for a kiss?” at some point, right? Of course you will! Nothing would end the date better than landing a smooch from that hottie across the table. But you have to time it right!

First off, don’t get too overzealous. Let the date progress in its own way. Don’t start prodding and probing your date about whether they like you or not. This may seem like the safe play, but the reality is that it makes you look needy and desperate. Relax, breathe, and try to get a vibe for how well you feel things are going.

If you have established that there is a little bit of chemistry going on, then begin to lean toward your date during conversation. If you are out to dinner lean forward on the table, if you are in a club, lean in pretending that you are having trouble hearing. Do whatever you have to do to position your bodies closer together. This is extremely important for getting an understanding of your date’s body language.

Once you are in close proximity, begin observing the body language of your date. Are they moving away from you as soon as they have said what they wanted to say, or are they staying in close during conversation. Do they have their arms crossed, or are they open and receptive to you as you speak. Does your date look into your eyes, or are they always looking around the room. Read the clues people! Get past your own ego and read the clues! Your date’s body language can tell you everything!

Do not lean in for a kiss unless your lips are a minimum of 2 feet away from each other at the time of approach! I have seen some people try to get the first date kiss from across the table, when their date is fully leaning back in their own chair. What ends up happening is that the one person leans all the way in, while the other remains seated back. There is no way to pretend you had any other intention than going for a kiss, and when the other person rejects you, you are left looking ridiculous and embarrassed.

If they are being very receptive and open during conversation - whether it be at the club, pub restaurant, car, movies, or even the front door at the end of the date - then you may have a shot. This is the time to make your move. Wait for that moment when you feel the electricity between your bodies build, and lean in ever so slightly. Pause to see if your date is doing the same, if not you still have a chance to make it look like you swayed forward a little off balance. Master the recovery, and you can save face.

If your date is also beginning to lean in, then this is the moment to go for it! This is the point of no return. Lean in and softly press your lips against your date’s. Don’t drive straight for the tungue, make it sweet and sensual. Follow the advice of the eternal date doctor “Hitch” and remember that 80% of people will judge the likelihood of a successful relationship by the feeling they get during the first kiss. Don’t muck it up! And don’t get all slobbery and toungy!

A first kiss is all about feeling, not ego. If you want your ego stroked, you will think everyone wants to kiss you. The result is a lot of bruised ego! If you want a real moment under the stars, wait for the feeling, wait for the moment, wait for the sensual lust, and the rest will follow.

-Safe dating!

It is a fact, good-looking people go on more first dates. This makes sense. The better looking you appear, the more likely someone will be attracted to you, and the more likely they will go out of there way to ask you out.

So the question remains, "How do I look attractive for a first date?"

Don't worry, DatemeDammit! would never leave you hanging. We will guide you through the process and make sure you are looking your best for this most important occasion. The steps work for both guys and girls, so keep reading folks!


Step 1 - Wear clothes that fit!
The worst thing that you can do is wear something that is either too loose, or too tight. A suit that is too wide, pants that are too long, shirts that are too tight, all serve to make your body look absolutely appalling.

Some women might feel that wearing a shirt that is too small might actually be an advantage. The reality is, it is not. By leaving something to the imagination, you will actually rev your date's engine much higher, than letting it all hang out.


Step 2 - Wear colors that are flattering
Black is always the safe bet. It is slimming, sleek, sexy, and makes people feel comfortable. Red is generally a no-no, unless you actually look really good in the color. In this case, you should probably ask a few very "honest" friends to be sure. Vertical stripes will never die, and horizontal ones will make you look wide. Blue always looks good with blue eyes, so that is another safe bet.


Step 3 - Add a bit of height
If you are not particularly tall, you may want to wear something that gives you a bit of a boost. Heals can really make women's legs look long and slim, while Dockers can usually give a man the extra height he desires. Tall people are just attractive... I don't know what it is.


Step 4 - Add some color to your face
When you look in the mirror and ask yourself, "How do I look attractive for a first date?”, you should always consider how white the winter months have made you. For many people, it is shockingly white. With a little bit of self-tanner, or a week in the tanning beds, you can add just the right amount of color to make your face look handsome/pretty again. Color helps define your cheekbones, trim your jaw, hide your double chin, and bring out your eyes. Trust us, get a tan!


Step 5 - Exude confidence
Confident people get way more dates than people who are self-conscious. It is as simple as that. Hold your head up high, talk highly of yourself without getting too egotistical, walk with the swagger that says, "I am hot stuff!" and be proud of who you are. This is the most vita step on how to look attractive on a first date.

-Safe dating my friends!

Has chivalry completely died in the modern world? Are there any true gentleman left, and if there so, will the feminists eventually wipe them all out? These questions, and others like then were the general discussion topic at a recent dinner party that I attended.

So what conclusion did we come to?

Actually, we didn’t. It seems that no one is quite sure what to do anymore. The men were unsure whether bringing flowers on a first date seemed needy, or if opening the door would be met with outright objection. The girls were equally unsure whether flowers are even necessary, and whether a man opening the door meant he was trying to assert his dominance and control over the ‘weaker’ sex.

It is interesting, because the whole ‘opening the door’ courtesy originated in Western Europe in the 1200’s, when castles were built with large, heavy oak doors. The reality was, many women were too weak to open these massive doors on their own – they required help, and the tradition continued for nearly 800 years. That was until the feminists got hold of it. The feminists saw this as a way of a man asserting his dominance and control, and encouraged women to open their own doors. This left many women and men questioning the age-old tradition.

It was only a matter of time before chivalry began to erode into a thing of the past. Women wanted to open their own doors, and men became too lazy or unwilling to even offer. Dating as we know it, has lost all the simple traditions that once made it an incredibly special experience. Shame on us all.

The reality is, the simple social courtesies such as bringing flowers, opening doors, and pulling chairs make most women feel special. It also allows a man to take the time and think about someone else for a change. Placing a women on a pedestal for one night is a simple way of saying: I respect you, I want to be with you, and I care. What is so wrong with that?

Nothing!

Men and women do deserve equal rights, but this shouldn’t be an excuse to take away the traditions that make our social interactions unique. I believe that men and women should have very unequal, but socially courteous traditions. Women shave their legs, men bring flowers; simple things that just say, “Hey, I value the date that we are on”.

Stop burning bras, bring back the chivalry, reignite the romance, and start treating your date like they are someone important. This is the key to a life of happiness.

-Safe dating my friends!

How much is too much? And should you even bother wearing cologne or perfume on a first date? These are the questions that few people ask, but most really should.

Originating in Cologne, Germany this popular first date toiletry was originally used to hide the foul smell of those who did not bathe on a regular basis. It is now used as a way of enhancing the sexual appeal of dater’s worldwide. So does it work?

Some scientists argue that it is possible to replicate appealing scents that will enhance sexual attraction. Others argue that the cologne actually hides naturally occurring pheromones that would have otherwise instigated an attraction between two individuals.

Despite this, most people believe that pheromones are not enough, and therefore choose to bath in their chosen cologne. The problem is that the nose slowly becomes less sensitive to the smell, leaving the cologne wearer to believe that the scent is not as powerful as it should be. They then proceed to add more and more cologne, in a fruitless attempt to reach a certain scent level. Everyone knows someone like this - you can usually smell them long before you can see them.

So what should you do on a first date?

I would advise against wearing cologne on a first date. There are rising rates of people who experience allergic reactions to the strong smells that come from colognes. Not only this, but the likelihood is that you will be so nervous that you will overspray yourself, and the car ride with your date will be unbearable for them.

The simple solution is to have a shower right before the date, and wear some sort of scented deodorant. It is virtually impossible to overdose on deodorant, so this will allow you to smell good without overdoing it.

This goes for the girls as well. Too much perfume (which is usually the case) just smells bad. Sometimes it can be so strong that you can almost taste it in your mouth - gross!

The pheromones will sort you out; not the Ralph Lauren version that you have stuffed down your shirt. Trust me!

-Safe dating my Friends!