First date questions must be carefully planned and carefully structured in order to get the most information without seeming too nosey or intrusive. The idea is to ask questions that will seem innocent and normal, while in reality you are actually scrutinizing every aspect of your date’s responses.


Here are the Top 10 first date questions you should definitely ask.


1. So what kind of work do you do?
This is one of the most crucial questions that you should get out of the way right off the bat. It is an easy question to ask, everyone in his or her right mind should be expecting it, and it can tell you a lot about a person. Caring people work in charity organizations, money-hungry people work in financial firms, narcissistic people work as personal trainers etc.

2. So, what are you going to order?
If you are out for dinner this is an awesome question to ask, but you only have a limited window to ask it in. If you wait until the order is taken, you can’t ask anymore, you already know. If you ask in advance, what will often happen is your date will tell you what they are ordering, and justify why they are ordering it. Humans can’t help it, they justify everything when asked. “I think I will order the steak. I love red meat, I always have, ever since I was a kid I…’ “I am going to have a salad. Not that I am on a diet or anything… well I kind of am, you see…”

3. Have you lived here all your life?
A great questions! The response to this one can tell you so much about how "emotionally" open a person is. If your date responds with, “oh my whole life.” and ends there – EMOTIONALLY SHUT DOWN. If they respond with, “Oh, my whole life. I was actually born at trinity Hospital in…” and continues – OPEN BOOK. They will share everything with you, and probably even cry in the movie later.

4. What kind of car do you drive?
This is a two-element question. If you get asked this on a first date, run for the hills, sounds like a moneygrubber to me. If you ask this on the first date, find out exactly how much your date cares about their car. People who dedicated blood sweat and tears to their ride, often have little time to share that same emotional connection with you. And people who buy $80,000 cars with a $100,000 salary are often overcompensating for something.

5. Do you have any pets?
Good One! Pets are important. They show love, compassion, and understanding for another living being. They are also dirty, smelly, and annoying, but who’s judging. A person who owns a pet is a great quality, but what kind of pet they have is a different story and can tell you a lot. Dog lovers are in crazy need of attention, cat lovers need sympathy, fish lovers are obsessive, lizard lovers are weird, and gerbil lovers are… I wont even go there. Etc, etc, etc…

6. How many relationships have you had in the past?
Just about everyone asks this one. Humans always want to know what they are up against, but to be honest, I am not sure this question tells you anything more than, “Oh wow, that is a lot, I wonder why.” Or “Hmmm, that is not very many, I wonder why.” Save yourself the trouble and stick to question that come with answers, not more questions.

7. Are your parents still together?
This is the ultimate tell tale of whether or not your date will have commitment issues later on down the road. FACT: Children of divorced homes have commitment issues – Yes, they do. Children of parents who are still together do not have these same issues.

8. Are your parents active?
This is not as obvious as the other questions; however, it is one of the most important. People who have active fit parents, tend to stay fit themselves. Children learn by mimicking their parents. Kids who grew up watching their dad drink beer and eat chips will likely do the same. Kids who grew up watching their parents stay active and participate in outdoor activities, will likely do the same.

9. What is your favourite movie?
A simple but effective question in determining the level of depth a person goes for in their entertainment. A person who absolutely loved 300, is not looking for the same type of depth of someone who loved The Reader. And believe me, this does matter. Dumming your brain to the tune of 300 is not good for someone who needs the emotional stimulation of The Reader.

10. What is your favourite book?
You will be surprised at how many people cannot answer this question, simply because they can’t remember the last time they read a book. If you are one of those people, I simply don’t know what to say to you. For those of you who do read, you probably already know why this question is so damn important!