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Facebook Breakup Faux Pas

It is time to take a moment and set the record straight about how to handle the delicate Facebook breakup. Follow this simple do's and don'ts guide to a successful Facebook breakup.

Status
For years people have been changing their status from 'single', to 'in a relationship' without any regard as to the implications this has for their future Facebooking adventures. If you are certain that the relationship is over, then it is ok to consider what you want to do with your status. If it is just a small fight, don't go all irrationally changing everything. That just creates gossip you Drama-KING/QUEEN.
Do: Change your status immediately after a break up
Don't: Immediately change it to 'single'. Take some time, breathe and figure out what you want now that the relationship is over.

Pictures
The likelihood is that you have a whole host of pictures on Facebook documenting your time together. Your profile picture might even be one of those incredibly cliché "smiling in front of the Christmas tree" photos. So do you bin them? YES, it only spreads confusing for yourself and others if you keep them. It is time to move on.
Do: Delete the photos, but keep them on your computer if you want to cherish the memory.
Don't: Keep them on Facebook because you are feeling sentimental, or are hoping you will get back together.

Friend
The best thing to do is delete that other person as a friend from Facebook. I know that you think you can be mature about it, that you can still be friends - likely not. Maybe someday in the future you can reconnect as friends, but for right now, it is best that you move on in separate ways. Take time to become "YOU" again.
Do: Delete your ex from your Facebook friends list
Don't: Keep them as a friend just so you can check their status, creep their photos, and scan their new friends in hopes of maintaining a watchful eye on them. That is stalking!

Updates
I see this all the time. Right after a breakup, the person will run out, get drunk, take photos, and immediately update their Facebook in order to show the world that they are single and loving it. You know full well that this will get around, and you know that this does not make anything better. Plus, it just makes you look a little bit sluttier.
Do: Go out and enjoy your life
Don't: Spread the pictures and stories around on Facebook. Be confident and secure enough to keep some aspects of your life a secret. This will ensure that you maintain a high level of online respect - something that will definitely be a factor when you start looking for a career.

These are the major points that I wanted to cover. I hope that you can have enough sense to follow just a few of them. I know we all want our 15 minutes of fame, but exploiting yourself and your relationship on Facebook is definitely not the answer.

- Safe dating my friends!



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1 comments to "Facebook Breakup Faux Pas"

  1. Jenna B says:

    That is one of the reasons I hate Facebook. It has made breaking up even that much worse. This is great advice!

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