Ok ladies, time for a short 101 on the ins and outs of what guys really want. It often seems complicated, but the reality is, guys are simple creatures. They are nowhere near as complex as they may appear.

I have broken men down into what I like to call the 5 B’s – Boobs or Butts, Beers, Brains, Bruising, and Bonding.

Boobs or Butts
Face it ladies, guys are either into boobs or butts - they love them! But don’t get discouraged if you feel less endowed. Most women default into thinking that men like either big breasts or big butts, but that is simply not the case. Yes guys likes breasts and butts, but of every size and shape. Some guys prefer huge ones, others like the medium size, and there are even those who love them small. Hard to believe, I know, but it is true.

In a recent study, sociologists found that women of all shapes and sizes were desired the various men in the study. There was no one shape or size that was desired more than the other. The magazine editors may believe that one size fits all, however, individual taste appear to rule all in the dating realm. So enjoy your assets for what they are, and be proud of who you are. This will boost your confidence, and make you more attractive to the man of your dreams. (Confidence is a characteristic that consistently ranks above beauty in sociological attractiveness studies).

Beers
In general, the man your are hoping to hook up with will have a love affair with beer. Whether this is hardwired into the male DNA, or is simply socialized into their everyday desires, it consistently ranks high on men’s list of favorite beverages.

Showing up on a first date with a 6-pack of beer, is the equivalent to a man showing up at your door with flowers and a box of candy. He will love it! But don’t just show up with any beer, spend a few extra dollars for a premium brew and win him over with your knowledge of the craft.

Brains
Believe it or not, guys do actually look for brains in a girl. The initial attraction always starts with boobs or butts, but quickly progresses to brains. If you want to have any hope of scoring a second date, you need to show off your intelligence, not hide it (as many women feel the need to do).

Don’t be sarcastic or condescending with your wisdom, that will just come across as arrogant. It is best to inject your thoughts on various topics in the same way that you would if you were out with your girlfriends. Let it flow naturally, and remain confident in what you say. There is nothing guys hate more than a girl who flip-flops her arguments in order to appear more compatible.

Bruising
Guys love sport, especially sport that involves hard physical contact. This may not be your cup of tea, but it is something that you should try to support as best as you can. If your guy is really into a specific sport, give him the time and freedom to watch the games that he would have regularly watched. Don’t demand attention from him during the game, and try your best to not schedule a date during the finals. This is one of the greatest keys to relationship success.

Bonding
At the end of the day, guys feel the same way as you do about relationships. They are looking for a bond that they can share, and a relationship that is something special. Of course, there are players out there who just want to have sex, but you know women who want that too.

The guys who are looking for a relationship will be going through all the same emotions as you, even if they don’t seem to show it. Give your man a break and let him open up in his own time. Offering your guy some space to breathe, and accepting that he doesn’t always express his emotions is the final key to understanding what men want.

-Safe dating everyone!



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